Monday, August 15, 2016

Raindrops on roses...

Wouldn't you know it?  I watered my thirsty plants today and it proceeded to pour down buckets.  That's usually how it works, right?  I'm sure they are grateful for the second watering....their keeper is awfully lazy about gardening the right way.

As I listen to distant rumblings of Mother Nature {still gently storming outside, after all}, I have to you ever feel like the friendships you make in your life are like thunderstorms?  They're useful and produce some great results, most of the time, but then they move along, destined for bigger and better things elsewhere.  That's how I feel....I have become fairly self-sufficient in making lots of good acquaintances everywhere we go.  But that bosom buddy/kindred spirit/go to gal?  I feel like that kind of friendship has eluded me since....well, since childhood.

Now don't get me wrong....I am loving where I live in wonderful RVA.  Matt would probably just shake his head and think, there she goes, thinking that thought she has every few months/quarter/year.  Nivette needs to get herself a best friend.  Yes, that would be nice.  Maybe I'm too lazy.  Maybe I don't make the effort to put myself out there enough.  Maybe everyone I currently know in RVA already has a  Maybe I'm too reserved {at first....after I really know you, all bets at sanity are off!} to open up enough to have a bestie with whom I am perfectly at ease.  At least I have my husband for a best friend.  But women all over the world know that is just not the same.

Every place we've lived, I usually end up missing the friends I've made once we have to move on.  Unlike many people I know of, however, I never feel compelled to try and visit old places I've lived.  Like, I don't know of many people in my life that I would go out of my way to try and visit, years after having met them.  These are people that I experienced part of my life with, and yet that extra connection?  I don't feel it.  Or maybe I'm projecting onto myself.  Does anyone consider me and my family worth an extra detour in their plans to come and visit?  I honestly don't know.  Maybe we're not super!  This is not to garnish piteous comments or declarations of, "No, you're super memorable, I would totally visit you guys if we were ever in Virginia."  I'm just honestly curious.

Since we have moved every three years up to this point, maybe I've decided, somewhere in the recesses of my brain, that I won't try too hard.  We'll only be in this place for such a short while in the grand scheme of things, so what's the point?  I hate goodbye's anyway, so let's make it easier by not getting too emotionally invested.  RVA, guess what?  We're here for at least five solid years.  Maybe it's time to let my wings fly free for a change.  Having a literal shoulder to cry on {as needed and hopefully hardly ever} would be helpful and comforting.  Knowing there was someone out there who really got me.  What a novel concept this would be.  It's like a continuation of high school, really.  This all explains why I was best friends with really no one, but friends of all.  The kind of person who could get a nod in the hallways from many of the typical high school cliches.  The quiet book-smart girl who kept to herself...

I guess, in the end, it all comes down to both effort and dumb luck.  I'm going to try and do my best to put myself out there and maybe something great will come of it.  So, to all the RVA ladies, both those I've met and those who are still just another nameless face driving down Hull Street Road {seriously, who thought of that combo?}, are you up for it?  Are you my long lost bestie?  Cause I'm taking applications.

Friday, August 12, 2016

I'm back....

When almost three years have passed since you last blogged, you know you're lazy!  I promise we're still alive, but sometimes, priorities just change a bit.

I reviewed my last regular post, and here are the major changes that have taken place since....yikes....2013!

  • Found out we were going to have a girl and welcomed Felicity Blair Connors on March 24, 2014.  She is, for the foreseeable future, our last child.  She's a handful lol!
  • Ellerie has completed first, second and third grades
  • Bennett has completed kindergarten and first grade
  • I ended my service in Young Women's at church and had a lazy jaunt in the nursery.  It was great.
  • Matt got a much needed/deserved promotion and we have moved to Richmond, VA!  He's finally a field director for the Heart of Virginia Council.
Life in Richmond, with family, lots of people, lots of church members, lots of traffic, our very own house....what can I say?  It's completely different than Rocky Mount, NC was.  What readers I have left probably don't even know what we thought of Rocky Mount.  I only wrote one post from that location.  It was larger than Abingdon, but besides the people, we don't really miss it.  We made lots of great friends in Rocky Mount for sure, and I do miss them at times.

It didn't take long for me to receive a new calling in the Bon Air Ward.  I'm the 1st counselor in Relief Society.  I've never served in RS before, except as the secretary out at BYU.  So that barely counts, right?  It has been good so far, and I just taught my first RS lesson ever last Sunday.  It went over great and I don't need to worry about teaching again until next year.....a huge sigh of relief.  It's still not my easiest task.

Ellerie and Bennett are doing great in school.  They are both extremely smart and performed above grade level in everything at the end of the school year.  I can't believe I will soon have a 4th and 2nd grader.  I feel very old sometimes.  Ellerie is quite sassy, but she's a darling when she wants to be.  I am trying to learn more patience in dealing with her.  Bennett is still a sweetheart, but Ellerie can be an excellent teacher, for better or worse, if you know what I mean.  He is still quick to listen, something I wish his older sister would pay attention to.

Felicity....ahh, Felicity.  She was a colicky baby.  That certainly didn't help me continue in the blogging world.  She has had stranger danger since she was 4 months old, although it has greatly improved since about six months ago.  Thank goodness it has, since we live within 15 minutes of Mom, Dad, Lee and her family.  She has no problem with them :)  She is a ball of energy who wants to be doing exactly what Ellerie and Bennett are doing.  Eh-Eh and Ba-Ba she calls them.  She is our latest talker.  She is saying more words each week, but still nothing like Ellerie was talking and even Bennett was exploding with words around 2 years old.  She get into stuff and makes, totally unlike any toddler I've personally dealt with 24/7.  But we love her to death.  She's pretty much our family mascot.  She is actually the quickest to do something, chore-wise, if I ask Ellerie or Bennett.  They will ignore me, as children do, but she will have started to do the task before they even register that I'm talking to them.  It's hilarious, helpful and frustrating from many different views.  She's also my little chubster.  She was a regular sized baby at 6 lbs. 11 oz., but after the first two weeks, she gained an entire pound almost every week, if not more.  She was huge.  She has definitely evened out, but she's still in the 75% for weight and only 25% for

What else....having our own has been lovely and daunting at the same time.  I got to paint to my heart's content, and then some.  I've been able to buy lots of stuff I've always wanted to...and plenty that I didn't want to.  But it's ours.  Our little Connors' Cape Cod.  We have nice neighbors, even if they do mainly keep to themselves.  We hosted an ice cream social a month or two ago that went over well with 41 in attendance.  We have a back deck, so we CAN :)

Well, for now, I'm going to close.  This has been a good study in my typing speed and learning to really type on a laptop again.  I've recently purchased a new laptop as my desktop is over six years old and starting to act its  I wanted to have another option before the other one died completely!  Anyway, it's getting late and my fingers are starting to complain.  Although my typing accuracy is getting better by the keystroke.  We'll see if I can manage to keep this blogging thing up at least once a week.  Theoretically, it shouldn't be that hard....

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Sunshine Award


1. What 3 words do you hope people use to describe you?
    Hmm.....maybe loyal, creative and funny

2. Describe your daily uniform (your go-to wardrobe staples). 
    Lately, these haven't been anything worth writing home about!  If I'm actually going out into public {at home it's all about t-shirts and pj} then the pair of jeans that feels most comfortable that day and a light sweater.

3. Any regrets from the year 2002?
    Well, that was almost 14 years ago!  My regrets include my {very tame} dalliances with stupid boys at BYU.  I think I was just trying to make time pass more quickly until my future husband got off his mission!

4. Event/time/thing you’re most looking forward to in 2014?
    Definitely having baby #3!  We find out boy or girl in just 9 days and then the battle for names begins!

5. What unusual or “crazy” color or piece of art/furniture do you secretly wish to incorporate into your house (current or future)? I.E.: I am trying to convince Sam to let me do a pale pink bedroom AND a black dining room at the new place…we’ll see!)
   Hmm....since we can't paint in our current place, I don't ideas for these things are usually suppressed until I can actually do something about it!

6. Favorite way to be active or exercise?
    Probably weight lifting....I absolutely hate  Right now, though, I am fairly lazy.  It's pretty sad.

7. Did you ever have a crush on a fictional character from a book or show? Who?
    Well, my celebrity crush du jour is probably Steven Amnell....if you don't know who I'm talking about, just watch Arrow on the CW network.  Yeah.  If it was a book, and this totally just came to mind and I can't remember his actual name, the main male character from The Scarlet Pimpernel.

8. You’ve come into mega-money! Do you hire a staff that comes and goes through your house regularly handling all of the house work or do you continue to do it all on your own (while wearing gold dipped rubber gloves, of course)?
   That's tough.  I think I'd hire someone to deal with my kitchen and bathrooms and take care of the rest myself.

9. What time period would you most like to live in (other than current times)?
    Well, that's easy!  Regency England :)

10. Tell us about your next Pinterest project you want to tackle.
      I don't know that I have it on Pinterest, but it's where you have the major dates, in number format, of you and your spouses birthdays and then your marriage, and then the dates of when your kids are born afterwards.  I have seen it printed out in ink, but I'm thinking I want to embroider it.  It'll be large enough to fit this big frame I've been figuring out how to use.  Probably 24" x 24" or a tad smaller.